Does a relationship with another soul die with death , does it stay alive with life?
What is a relationship? Is it the eclectic mix of happy/unhappy memories and the desire to have future experiences with another? Would a relationship cease to exist if it had no future? If we are ageless sparks, in theosophical terms, there is no such thing as 'no future', though perhaps no immediate future, which again needs a fine tuned- 'in this current birth' future.
Why do two people come together? There seems to be two reasons for this - one to learn something , two, to balance a good/ action of past lives or this birth. Both reasons fulfill only one goal- they change something in us, prune something, grow something else.
If the purpose of all relationships was only to bring this change, can we then say that there is no such thing as a living or a dying relationship, in whatever form it appears, even in a one with no ' immediate pleasant future' it has a value for us, if that change in us is a necessary one.
One hears such a lot about' caustic relationships' , ' staying away from negative people', ' getting rid of rude, critical and argumentative people', but eventually why does it happen that one seems to keep attracting the same kind of people all the time? I think if we put the effort to change ourselves fully, the first time, it wont happen again, but it keeps happening because the change is not complete enough.
On another note, I was thinking today- why does every man regard another a threat? Why are we building these fragile fences of 'me and my strengths' to combat this perceived threat from the world around us. And after we build the fence, we sit on our side, aiming our guns at innocent tresspassers, quite like lunatics.
In reality the final end of relationship is being in complete non -violent harmony with the other, viewing him or her as another reflection of our own selves. Such a reflection could reinforce our inner resolve to continue this journey, in either admiration for the other or in hope for a better development, depending on what one sees. Relationships end when there is no give and take...until one continues, even in the mind to hate OR love, they live, its in the collapse of these extremes that relationships really end. Its a tough thing, as one can have a 'hate' relationship even with a dead person and tie yourself down. Understanding these reflections, seeing what was causing your unhappiness removes the same. Ultimately one realizes that life throws relationships at you, so you can see yourself completely stripped of them, see your naked inner self and what that lacks. Relationships are nothing but mirrors to our own multifaceted selves. Some reflect well, some ugly. Finally it is the equilibrium of the self against all reflections is the so called 'nirvana' that man seeks, the enlightenment that one strives for. It requires a lot of inner work for a person to develop this complete inner harmony, and it certainly is not something that happens by sitting in meditation under one Bodhi tree. Its wisely said, that the mind is a monkey, and a steady state is truly an achievement, not just being an externally calm person, but having complete inner tranquility..its at that stage that all relationships cease.
What is a relationship? Is it the eclectic mix of happy/unhappy memories and the desire to have future experiences with another? Would a relationship cease to exist if it had no future? If we are ageless sparks, in theosophical terms, there is no such thing as 'no future', though perhaps no immediate future, which again needs a fine tuned- 'in this current birth' future.
Why do two people come together? There seems to be two reasons for this - one to learn something , two, to balance a good/ action of past lives or this birth. Both reasons fulfill only one goal- they change something in us, prune something, grow something else.
If the purpose of all relationships was only to bring this change, can we then say that there is no such thing as a living or a dying relationship, in whatever form it appears, even in a one with no ' immediate pleasant future' it has a value for us, if that change in us is a necessary one.
One hears such a lot about' caustic relationships' , ' staying away from negative people', ' getting rid of rude, critical and argumentative people', but eventually why does it happen that one seems to keep attracting the same kind of people all the time? I think if we put the effort to change ourselves fully, the first time, it wont happen again, but it keeps happening because the change is not complete enough.
On another note, I was thinking today- why does every man regard another a threat? Why are we building these fragile fences of 'me and my strengths' to combat this perceived threat from the world around us. And after we build the fence, we sit on our side, aiming our guns at innocent tresspassers, quite like lunatics.
In reality the final end of relationship is being in complete non -violent harmony with the other, viewing him or her as another reflection of our own selves. Such a reflection could reinforce our inner resolve to continue this journey, in either admiration for the other or in hope for a better development, depending on what one sees. Relationships end when there is no give and take...until one continues, even in the mind to hate OR love, they live, its in the collapse of these extremes that relationships really end. Its a tough thing, as one can have a 'hate' relationship even with a dead person and tie yourself down. Understanding these reflections, seeing what was causing your unhappiness removes the same. Ultimately one realizes that life throws relationships at you, so you can see yourself completely stripped of them, see your naked inner self and what that lacks. Relationships are nothing but mirrors to our own multifaceted selves. Some reflect well, some ugly. Finally it is the equilibrium of the self against all reflections is the so called 'nirvana' that man seeks, the enlightenment that one strives for. It requires a lot of inner work for a person to develop this complete inner harmony, and it certainly is not something that happens by sitting in meditation under one Bodhi tree. Its wisely said, that the mind is a monkey, and a steady state is truly an achievement, not just being an externally calm person, but having complete inner tranquility..its at that stage that all relationships cease.
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