One defines lunacy as causelessly injuring another. Many a murder accused plead temporary insanity. But all of us know that greater than injuring the mortal body, is causing damage to a person's emotional and mental well being. But how often and how easily we criticize another, pull down their achievements, make them feel inadequate. Today more and more people are victims of someone's psychological abuse- whether that abuse is a direct verbal assault or in subtle gestures. Such victims rarely identify those who abuse them until its too late and one has started to feel unwell on account of behavior of others.
Sometimes, such a victim, feeling vaguely that someone else is to be blamed for their state, starts a new cycle of abuse, hating or passing the hatred to an entirely different being.
Finally life feels so out of control and one is lost in the blame- game of finding an external cause for our unhappiness or unwellness.
If at the outset, from the very beginning one starts identifying how and when someone out there, is damaging you, your self worth and your well being, you can start defending yourself through clarity and well- defined counter thoughts. This barrage of negativity that has come your way, then goes down the drain instead of getting reinforced and being sent out into the world.
It is extremely important to analyse every form of negativity that comes your way- even if it takes ages, and be clear headed on what to do with such. If the negativity works out to be a useful self-correction- one can feel grateful to the persons who offered it. But more often than not, criticism stems from many irrational bases like jealousy, competitiveness, insecurity and confusion.
Often one finds one is physically unwell or mentally deflated and that is mostly because one has not taken this crucial responsibility of safe guarding that precious commodity called self-worth at every moment of one's life.
Thus even if the cause is external, we are responsible for our unwellness or unhappiness at all times and the reasons can always be found through inward introspection. Identification is the key to finding a solution.
Sometimes, such a victim, feeling vaguely that someone else is to be blamed for their state, starts a new cycle of abuse, hating or passing the hatred to an entirely different being.
Finally life feels so out of control and one is lost in the blame- game of finding an external cause for our unhappiness or unwellness.
If at the outset, from the very beginning one starts identifying how and when someone out there, is damaging you, your self worth and your well being, you can start defending yourself through clarity and well- defined counter thoughts. This barrage of negativity that has come your way, then goes down the drain instead of getting reinforced and being sent out into the world.
It is extremely important to analyse every form of negativity that comes your way- even if it takes ages, and be clear headed on what to do with such. If the negativity works out to be a useful self-correction- one can feel grateful to the persons who offered it. But more often than not, criticism stems from many irrational bases like jealousy, competitiveness, insecurity and confusion.
Often one finds one is physically unwell or mentally deflated and that is mostly because one has not taken this crucial responsibility of safe guarding that precious commodity called self-worth at every moment of one's life.
Thus even if the cause is external, we are responsible for our unwellness or unhappiness at all times and the reasons can always be found through inward introspection. Identification is the key to finding a solution.
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